Thursday, July 14, 2005

Thank you, Dr Huntoon!

As a person living in Northeastern WI, I don't often get an opportunity to meet or speak to those in other areas of the country, but the wonder of internet always amazes me. I have been touched by so many people via this world wide internet, and some I have eventually met in person, to be blessed even more.

Email is simply amazing also, as it is a vehicle that I can let those people know that they have touched my life through a book, an article, a picture...or caused me to act by something that was said.

It was not until I got my first computer that I really had a chance to learn who Terri Schiavo was. I got the first computer in May of 1999 while taking a 12 credit Community Dental Health Certification course that was brand new, using Mom's for a few months before then. Sometime after that, I heard of Terri and began to talk and write about her and her situation as a disabled woman. As a nurse who has taken care of MANY brain injured over the many years, and has also taken care of many developmentally/cognitively disabled of all kinds, babies to elderly, I tried to teach people the facts. Terri was not brain dead, was not dying, was not on life support, was deserving to live solely because she is a child of God, deserved to have continuing therapy, etc etc etc.

Today, I was touched by an email that appeared in MY inbox, telling me that I may be interested in something written that was now published on another site by Dr Thomas Droleskey ( And it is good. I also urge you to go to the other hyperlinked sites and read them while you are there.

Thank you, Dr Huntoon!

L.R. Huntoon, M.D., Ph.D., F.A.A.N.
Journal of American Physicians and Surgeons

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Today, we hear so many excuses for having an affair, and most of them blame the other spouse!

Regardless of how 'bad' that spouse may be in communication, etc, it is not the spouse who chose to break the wedding vows, and they hold NONE of the responsibility for that choice you may have made or may be about to make... none. NONE. None.

I do not advocate divorce, at all. But if things are really all that bad, don't cheat. Get help, get counseling alone or together, hopefully with someone who has great success at healing and helping marriages. But don't cheat.

An 'affair' is not something that 'JUST HAPPENED'. It is a choice, made by you and you alone, to abandon your promise, your Covenant, your spouse, your marriage. Blame yourself, and yourself alone. Take responsibility for your own actions. Many have had mediocre or poor marriages and NEVER broken their vows. Your spouse did not force you to have an affair. You chose to do so. Period.

Just as an alcoholic's wife/husband does not tie them down and pour the beer/liquor/wine down their throat, forcing them to drink, no one forces you to cheat. Period. No one can make you do it.

If things are really that bad, and you have really tried GOOD counselors and still choose the divorce route, don't date til it is over. Then take time to heal, get more counseling. Reflect on what YOU did to make the marriage fail or you will repeat it all over. Take responsibility for your part and your own actions.

But don't cheat. And don't blame others for your actions.

If you are in the temptation area and toying with the idea... DON'T.

While listening to Dave Roever's July 4th program, I heard two more tapes that I strongly encourage anyone married, not married, about to be listen to.

Building Hedges Around Your Marriage, Pt 1
7/13/2005 - Wednesday
Husbands, when you got married … did you stop looking at other women? Author Jerry Jenkins and Dr. James Dobson take a look at the importance of building hedges around your marriage. Though some things may never change, hear how God has given men exactly what they need to honor their marriage vows. This broadcast is for mature audiences.

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Building Hedges Around Your Marriage (Part 2 of 2)
Bestselling author Jerry Jenkins discusses practical ways couples can protect their marriage from the temptations of infidelity. (Part 2 of 2)

Building Hedges Around Your Marriage, Pt 2
Thursday, July 14, 2005

Husbands, when you got married … did you stop looking at other women? Author Jerry Jenkins and Dr. James Dobson take a look at the importance of building hedges around your marriage. Though some things may never change, hear how God has given men exactly what they need to honor their marriage vows. This broadcast is for mature audiences.
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"Love Healed My Wounds"

When someone tells me that they earned a Purple Heart (and they don't tell me that fact volutarily), I think of someone like Fr Cappodano, and others that I have known who were injured rather severely (not rice in the buttocks).

Long ago, I heard a vet talk about his injury, not in a bragging way that said look at me, I got a Purple Heart~~because he didn't. But as someone who learned what real love is as a result of his injuries. Today, while surfing, I got an email about a different topic, and went to the site. There, I found the broadcast of the July 4 program, archived.

It was Dave Roever, again, talking about "Love Healed My Wounds", and it is good.

Dr. James Dobson

Love Healed My Wounds
Monday, 7/4
Join Dr. James Dobson as he presents a graphic testimony by Dave Roever, a Vietnam veteran horribly wounded in a combat explosion! Dave challenges teens to live life to the fullest, instead of wasting it with drugs and alcohol. It’s a message about harsh realities — but still offering humor for all ages!

Terri Schiavo's Autopsy: The Blind Spot

While looking for a source of a news story about another neurologist that did not agree with the Autopsy, I came across THIS long but very good and fairly easy to understand piece at
Eros Colored Glasses

It is EXCELLENT, and I recommend printing it and absorbing it a little at a time....from their blog:


  • By reference to the medical literature adduces evidence that a substantial portion of the loss in Terri's brain weight observed postmortem may have been due to the dehydration to which she was subjected.
  • By reference to the medical literature adduces evidence that Terri's much-vaunted total cortical blindness may also be attributable to dehydration.
  • Refutes the Medical Examiners' suggestion that their autopsy findings are "very consistent with" the PVS diagnosis and for years Terri Schiavo was unable to see, recognize her family, think, or exercise any of the other higher mental functions that distinguish human life.
  • Refutes the Medical Examiners' suggestion that their autopsy findings prove that Terri Schiavo suffered irreversible brain damage and would not have benefited from rehabilitation.
  • Critiques poor medical and scientific reasoning and misleading statements by the Medical Examiners who performed the autopsy, as well as by the mainstream media and medical experts who supported the Medical Examiners' misinterpretation of the findings.

Confusion now hath made his masterpiece. - Shakespeare

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Neurologist discredits Schiavo autopsy report, says she

Neurologist discredits Schiavo autopsy report,
says she died `horrific' death

Chicago, Jun. 27, 2005 (CNA) - A neurology expert has discredited
several aspects of Terri Schiavo's autopsy report, released earlier
this month, saying that the main cause of death listed in the report
is inaccurate.

Dr. Thomas Zabiega, MD, has said the medical examiners' claims that
Schiavo died from anoxic-ischemic encephalopathy are wrong.

"She died of starvation and dehydration, plain and simple, although
many of the ischemic and anoxic changes may have resulted from the
chemical abnormalities caused by the starvation and dehydration," he

The 41-year-old physically disabled and brain-damaged Florida woman
died March 31, almost two weeks after her feeding tube was removed.
She had fallen into this state after she suffered a heart attack in
1990 that left her without oxygen to her brain for several minutes.
Her husband won a years-long court battle to remove her feeding
tube, sparking an international right-to-life debate in the process.

"She did not die from the injuries that caused her to have brain
damage, rather from the enforced starvation and dehydration," said
Zabiega. "The examiner only notes she died from dehydration in one
of the last sentences of the report, but does not list it as the
main cause of death."

The neurologist and vice president for legislative affairs of the
Chicago Physicians' Guild questioned whether medical examiners were
making this claim in order to exonerate the issue of how she died.

"If I have lung cancer and someone gives me cyanide, I died from
the cyanide, not the lung cancer," he said.

The neurologist added that osteoporosis, joint degeneration, and
muscle atrophy that medical examiners found in Schiavo were not the
result of anoxic-ischemic encephalopathy either, but "a direct
result of lack of physical therapy and lack of activity that Terri
Schiavo was not allowed to have due to her husband's orders."

The report also indicated that Schiavo's heart, lungs, kidneys,
liver, and gastrointestinal tract were "normal except for changes
secondary to the dehydration/starvation process," Zabiega noted.

He concluded, therefore, that Schiavo "would have probably lived for
many more years without any major health problems" had she received
proper food and hydration.

The autopsy report stated that Schiavo had no memory — because her
hippocampus was damaged — and no cognitive ability. But Zabiega
noted the "relative preservation" of the frontal and temporal lobes.

"Complex cognition and executive decisions as well as emotional
output are often associated with the frontal lobe, while the
temporal lobes are often associated with memory, as well as
hearing," he explained.

"Therefore Terri Schiavo's ability to think, react with appropriate
emotions, memory, and hearing could have all be intact at the time
the feeding tube was removed," he stated. The same may have been
true about her memory since damage to the hippocampus could have
been caused by the dehydration and starvation, he added.

Schiavo may have been cortically blind, but there was no way of
saying if the preserved occipital lobe had taken over and whether
there was macular sparing, allowing her to see up close, the
neurologist said. This would make it possible that Schiavo could
indeed see her mother and react to her.

What Zabiega says is "most horrific" is that Schiavo had only
acetaminophen (Tylenol) found in her blood. This means that she was
not receiving appropriate amounts of morphine after her feeding tube
was removed and that "she died a horrific, painful, excruciating
death that would be worse than any form of execution used in modern
times," he said.

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Wednesday, July 13, 2005

“Express Divorce”

"Express Divorce": Spain's No-Fault Divorce

by Judy Parejko and Michele Gauthier

A Spanish archbishop recently decried the "controlled demolition of marriage from within by the laws reforming the Civil Code"” He also warned that, "The state has no right to demolish marriage from within." He’s right, of course, but, sad to say, it’s already been done in the US.

When Archbishop Agustin Garcia-Gasco of Valencia, Spain, made the above statements, he was voicing exasperation at the country’s move to "express divorce," which is just another name for the system put in place in this country more than thirty years ago --"no-fault" divorce.

Meanwhile, bishops in the US have announced a Pastoral Marriage Initiative that will "sponsor focus groups to solicit input from persons concerned about marriage issues." According to the office of the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops (USCCB) Committee on Marriage and Family, "The centerpiece of the Initiative will be a pastoral letter on marriage, emphasizing the bishops’ teaching and their responsibilities as pastors."

The United States is well ahead of Spain. Our own system of "express divorce" demolishes Catholic marriages with the same mechanical indifference as other marriages -- in spite of the sacramental nature of Catholic marriage.

But when bishops in this country were surveyed and asked for their priorities regarding marriage, the list included "sacramentality of marriage, commitment within marriage, marriage preparation and education, marital spirituality, and marriage as a vocation." Apparently, concern over "express divorce" did not make the list.

In a previous article we told the story of an Ohio man who begged the Church to step in and protect his marriage from the ravages of the civil system, which by now has inflicted numerous affronts as a result of the divorce his wife initiated. And even though she is now showing signs of wanting to reconcile, the civil authorities continue to inflict damage. Over the past two years, he’s had his driver’s license suspended, is being threatened with jail, and is struggling with the onset of multiple sclerosis -- no doubt accelerated by the stress of all he’s faced.

We would like to pose the following question: Why are US bishops sponsoring focus groups while marriage is being bludgeoned to death by a system bent more on gaining control over people’s lives than lifting couples out of their conflicts by sending them to some kind of "marriage hospital" -- where they might find the help they need to repair their "injuries"?

And what about the other vows that are taken at the time of marriage -- the promise to live by the rules of the Church, which includes canon law, that is supposed to protect families from civil intrusion of this kind? Pope Leo XIII maintained (in Arcanum) that the Church never relinquished authority over Christian marriage.

A note from the Spanish Bishops’ Conference states:

[M]arriage has lost "its own note of legal stability" and is "reduced to a shallow contract that either of the parties may rescind in virtue of his or her mere will"....

[B]y leaving in practice the continuity of the conjugal pact to the discretion of individual liberty, they also leave the marriage bond unprotected and open the legal path to the violation of the rights of the other spouse and of the children."

Here in the United States, we have a 30-year history that reveals the devastating fallout from violating the rights of the other spouse and the children.

Spain is on the verge of joining us in what was previously labeled a "Silent Revolution" by Herbert Jacob, who was a political science professor at Northwestern University. Silent Revolution is the title of his insightful book about how the transformation of US divorce laws came in "under the radar." In the case of Spain, the difference is that at least one bishop is paying attention and will not let this change happen silently.

© Copyright 2005 Catholic Exchange

Judy Parejko is the author of Stolen Vows ( and Michele Gauthier is the founder of Defending Holy Matrimony (

Tuesday, July 12, 2005

Debunking 8 Anti-War Myths About The Conflict In Iraq

In surfing the web the past few days, I came across one site that sent me to another blog, that sent me to another blog, etc, etc, and I got lost.

I do not know any longer how I got to this blog, and I apologize to the person who called my attention to this website. I usually have no problem giving credit where credit is due, and if you should ever see this, I will edit this in order to thank you and point to your blog.

It was a very simple statement to see this website for the article "Debunking 8 Anti-War Myths About The Conflict In Iraq" by John Hawkins and especially note number six.

God bless, and thank you. I did. And I am now passing it on.

Posted Sun 22 June 2003 13:21

On February 17, 1988, one month and a half after taking command of UN Observer Group Lebanon, Lieutenant Colonel Rich Higgins was captured by Hezbollah terrorists. At some unknown later date, his captors murdered him! During his time in captivity, he was interrogated and tortured, and at one point his captors announced to the world that they intended to try Colonel Higgins for war crimes since he had served in Vietnam.

18 months later, Colonel Higgins’ lifeless body was broadcast on television screens around the world, hanging by the neck. It wasn’t until December 1991, that his remains were recovered – dumped on a street in Beirut.

Although captured and held by armed enemies of the United States while on Military Assignment with U.N. Forces, Colonel Higgins was never designated a Prisoner of War.

Your Military Personnel desperately need your support and your assistance in ensuring that this does not ever happen again. Our men and women in uniform face a new reality in armed conflict, namely fighting terrorism. One stark reality of war is that troops can be captured – they can be taken as a prisoner, such as what became of Colonel Higgins.

Currently, Uniformed Service Personnel who are kidnapped, abducted, or otherwise taken prisoner by terrorist factions, are not considered prisoners of war by our own Government; instead they are considered hostages, captives, or detainees.

There is an effort currently under way to change this law. It is called Operation Higgins in memory of Colonel Rich Higgins, USMC, and is a non-partisan effort to change the law to support our military personnel. We propose that any member of our armed forces, who is taken prisoner by these terrorist be provided all protections under international law(s) and be granted PW status – not hostage, captive, or detainee.

You can do your part by writing, calling, or visiting your elected officials and inform them that you would support a bill that would protect future American POWs. Encourage your elected officials to support federal legislation that will protect their own sons and daughters who may be called upon to defend our nation.

Additionally, you can log onto our website at and download a printable petition that you can sign and circulate yourselves.

The time to get involved and let your voice be heard is now!


Mike Blades

Posts: 9 | Registered: Sun 22 June 2003


My Mom (39 years old again......."If Jack Benny can do it, so can I!" ) has a birthday today. And she does not care how old I get to be. I am her oldest.

Clue here about her age... when my 25th Class reunion took place, it was her 50th Class Reunion, too. When I graduated from High School, I was 18 yrs old. Mom's bday being in the middle of the summer was not yet 18. Some from her class quit school and went to war during her senior year. Some waited until they graduated that June. And then, it was another three years or so before the war ended. Which war? .... ah, that is for YOU to figure out..... but my Dad served under Patton.

On Saturday, we celebrated Mom's birthday. All of her kids were there. Their spouses, if married were there. And most of her grandkids, great grandkids. AND all five of her siblings!

Mom was married to Dad for just short of forty years, when he died. She has now been alone since June 3, 1987. Together, they raised ten children.

Her dream was to travel the US visiting her kids for a couple of weeks each. Her siblings' children have moved away, you see.... At various times, she made it to Texas (Dallas area) and to Virginia. One son served in Germany, so they visited there, and also saw Ireland the same trip. Another brother and a sister served in the military, too, so she visited each of them for short times, I think, when they completed basic....)

The rest never really left the area.... well, one brother made it to Waupaca, and we had lived in Merrill for about seven years, and then Oshkosh for eight.... one is under an hour, the second was under three hours away, the third a half hour..... and at LEAST one sister had never left the State of Wisconsin, even on a vacation until they celebrated their 25th wedding anniversary! (Then they did it BIG time and went to Rome~)

Mom's children range in ages that span 19 1/2 years from oldest to youngest. The youngest two helped to keep her young, in many ways.

When the second youngest was just in kindergarten, the baby came along. I, the oldest, had already completed my first year in college....

She has ten kids, most are married. At last count, there are 30+ grand children, and five great grandchildren, so far, with only two of us having grandkids yet. Soon there will be six..... and who knows how many more?

Mom raised her children after her own mother had passed away while she was in nursing school. She had no one to call and ask for advice and reassurance. As her children had children, we were all glad that she was there for US to ask...and I personally often wondered how she made it having ten, with no one to talk to. Her younger sisters called HER for advice. She had two older brothers.... not quite the same as a Mom.....

My youngest brother is a Harley driver. He gave my Aunt a ride, and the next thing I know..... MOM is getting helped to the back of the Hog and taking off down the street on the back, too! Amidst a lot of photo taking and cheering and "YAY, MOM's" "GO, GRANDMA's!"

She kept putting off cutting the cake, though. And they thoughtfully did NOT put candles on ... you know, the one for every year? Thirty nine are, after all, hard to blow out......

One of those sisters and her husband took photos of Mom and put them to music on a CD for us to watch on Saturday. Mom as a baby. Mom with her family on the farm. Mom with her friends, with her cousins, with her sisters... Mom in nursing school, Mom with friends from that time, Mom on her wedding day, Mom and Dad at sibs weddings, Mom and Dad's surprise 25th wedding anniversary party we had for her (she did not want one...wait til the fiftieth, she'd say... and I am SOOO glad I did not listen to her. Dad left us too early for that one).

It was a very nice day.

Happy Birthday, Mom. I love you! And MANY MORE!

Your First Born

More Nat Hentoff on Terri Schiavo

Jewish World Review

July 11, 2005/ 4 Tamuz, 5765

Nat Hentoff

The continuing case of Terri Schiavo

The end of the June 15 autopsy report on Terri Schiavo states that it is the policy of the medical examiner's officer "that no case is ever closed and that all determinations are to be reconsidered upon receipt of credible, new information." Whatever new information, if any, comes to light, the facts of who she was and how she died will inevitably change the way many of us confront our own deaths.

Pat Anderson, for a long time the attorney for Terri Schiavo's parents, said the day Terri died of dehydration -- as ordered by the courts and her husband -- "Euthanasia in America now has a name -- and a face."

Dr. Jon Thogmartin's autopsy report made clear that Terri Schiavo was not dying, let alone terminal. As Dr. Carl D'Angio wrote in a June 21 letter in the New York Times: "Her family loved what was left of her and asked only to be permitted to care for her at their own expense. My question is, who or what was better served by her passive execution by water deprivation than by the first alternative?"

Responding to the autopsy report, Terri's parents said: "Terri's case was NOT an end-of-life case. Terri's case was about ending a disabled person's life. Terri was brain-injured. This does NOT mean that she was brain-dead."

Her parents also noted that "according to the medical examiner, Terri was given morphine for pain as she died ... If Terri could feel no pain, as some would say, why would these drugs be necessary? In our opinion, the treating health care officials understood that Terri felt pain."

There was a service when Michael Schiavo, her husband, buried her cremated remains on June 20 in Clearwater, Fla., where he lives. However, Terri's parents were not there -- he did not tell them.

That tells me something about Michael Schiavo. Also, on a bronze grave marker, he had taken pains to order, he wrote: "I kept my promise."

Concurring, a headline in the June 16 New York Post exclaimed: "Terri had no hope -- Autopsy supports her husband." With few exceptions, this was also the opinion of many editorial writers and columnists around the country. Another consensus in the media was that her rights had been, indeed laboriously, upheld by the courts, up to and including the Supreme Court.

But the true core of this case, resulting in the extraction of her life, was the decision by Circuit Judge George Greer in Florida that Michael Schiavo had kept his promise by adhering to what he claims Terri told him, before her brain injury, that she would not want to live if she were kept artificially alive.

This alleged statement was just hearsay, confirmed only by Michael Schiavo's brother and sister-in-law. But Judge Greer paid no attention to the sworn testimony of a close friend of Terri, who testified Terri had said her wishes would have been to go on living in such a situation.

Moreover, Judge Greer repeatedly refused to take into consideration, with regard to the husband's credibility, that Michael Schiavo, after Terri became disabled, had for years been living with another woman, with whom he's had two children, although he had said he would devote his life to caring for his wife.

Also, Michael Schiavo did not mention her alleged wishes for years after her brain damage, at one point saying he didn't know her wishes. Yet Judge Greer allowed Michael Schiavo to act as her guardian, while not permitting Terri to have her own lawyer representing her. (Her parents had a lawyer, but elementary due process required that an attorney directly represent this disabled woman, whose husband was intent on her interment.)

After the autopsy, there were renewed, scathing attacks on those members of Congress who had tried to have the federal courts intervene to save Terri's life. But since a state court judge had sentenced her to death -- ordering her feeding tube removed three times -- elementary due process required a review of the entire case in the federal courts by authority of the Fourteenth Amendment's "equal protection of the laws."

Most of the media omitted the fact that in Congress, there were many Democrats as well as Republicans who tried hard to provide Terri the essence of our legal system — due process — before it was too late.

But then, the great majority of the federal judges who became involved relied entirely on the state circuit judge's unyielding death sentence. I called this judicial murder, the longest public execution in our history. Despite Michael Schiavo's bronze marker on her grave, I have not changed my mind.

Michael Schiavo's literary agent, David Vigliano, is sending proposals for a book by the husband to publishers. Says Mr. Vigliano: "I think this is the seminal case in the right to die with dignity story."


This is the seminal case for whether euthanasia for the seriously disabled becomes embedded in the American way of death.

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Monday, July 11, 2005

Justice? Or enabling? Or ...

I have watched as the children in Florida were murdered after being sexually abused, and fumed as three who lived in the same trailer as one of the murderers were not charged with anything after lying to the police and even aiding the man in escaping them. I have seen so many children kidnapped out of their own homes, including the two year old daughter of one of my former babysitters here in WI. I have not understood how some of these people get out so easily, and are allowed to live anywhere near kids, and often their very whereabouts are UNKNOWN.

But I have never been so flabbergasted, so angry, so disgusted as I am in hearing about the poor family in Idaho. Three people murdered, two children stolen, ONE killed, ONE recognized by a waitress and both had been sexually molested repeatedly while in this ...... animal's control.

And then we learn that he was OUT ON BAIL, of $15,000 and only had to deposit $1500 of that! What is going on with the judges today? Now, this judge (see more recent news story hyperlinked to title) claims he 'didn't know' that Duncan was a Level 3 convicted sexual offender that had served time for molesting a 14 yr old AT GUNPOINT when he was 16, and was NOW in the judge's court room for allegedly molesting a six year old... and could barely remember the case.

You know, not too long ago, the newspapers were FULL of the scandal in our Catholic Church, where the victims were nearly all teens. They were furious that some of the Bishops, who believed the psychobabble of those days that offenders, etc could be cured with 'treatment'... had dared to transfer those priests from place to place. The stories made it seem that the ONLY clergy molesters were Catholic priests, and the solution was to let priests marry ... (right, homosexual priests who prey on teen males really need to marry, and raise their own victims, AND also cause some woman a lifetime of unhappiness.... yeah, they surely would not prey on teen boys if they were married, having children of their own.... )

The pedophiliacs are not solely in one place. Some are Dads, molesting their own kids, and their kid's friends. Some are never married, and molest any child that they can find, even stalking them and kidnapping them. Some, as in the case I am most familiar with, have even been arrested in the past for sexually abusing...animals, and moved up to a two year old girl he took out of her own home, through her own bedroom window while the family was sleeping!!

Enough of that. I am DISGUSTED with the Minnesota Judge who SHOULD HAVE KNOWN the history of the one he was sentencing, and should have ASKED when even the defense attorney made reference to Duncan's history of sexual offender!!! I am totally disgusted with those judges in Florida that let the three off with no consequences for lying to the police and hiding/aiding escape of the man who not only raped his little victim, but also buried her alive holding her stuffed dolphin!!!

Where is not only the legal knowledge that is supposed to come with being a judge, but also the COMMON SENSE that any human being has???? With all the publicity about the scandal in the Church, have we learned NOTHING about honest to goodness pedophilia???

A family is nearly wiped out because a judge gave a convicted Level 3 sexual offender a small bail when he was being charged with sexual molestation of a six year old...a little boy and a little girl repeatedly molested, the boy is dead, and the girl rescued only by the Grace of God above. And, NOW, Duncan is being investigated for a missing little girl from two years ago....?

Lord, save us from this kind of stupidity!

From the title news article:
Judge Thomas Schroeder has said he didn't know whether Duncan was a Level 3 sex offender when Duncan appeared in his court on April 5. Duncan was charged with molesting a 6-year-old boy at a Detroit Lakes school playground in July 2004.

But Duncan's status as a Level 3 sex offender had been reported in the Forum newspaper in nearby Fargo, N.D., just three days before the hearing. And during the hearing, Duncan's own attorney told the judge, "He is, of course, a registered sex offender," according to the transcript.

From the earlier article above:

Schroeder told the station he was unclear on whether he knew that Duncan was a Level 3 sex offender when he set his bail. The county attorney's office contends that information was presented to the judge, KSTP reported.

"I don't recall what I recall because I don't exactly recall setting the bail,'' Schroeder said.

Level 3 sex offenders are considered the most dangerous and most likely to re-offend.

Standing... in the Gap, til Death

Interesting the kinds of things that others say to one who does not date after (and sometimes before) separation and forced, no fault unilateral divorce in today's society. I am including not only words, but also 'looks' given when that fact is made public.

In the past years, I have been told that I am wrong, that what I believe is God's will for ME, but not for my neighbor/sibling/friend (that is moral relativism, you know, NOT Christianity!)

Jesus is very clear in His teaching on the indissolubility of marriage! Four separate places, four separate statements, He says that another marriage after divorce is adultery. While many try to justify 'THEIR' situation, He clearly names each person involved in any divorce/'re'marriage. And then, Paul tells us even more clearly that He says

(1Cor 7:10-11) To the married I give charge, not I but the Lord, that the wife should not separate from her husband (but if she does, let her remain single or else be reconciled to her husband) -- and that the husband should not divorce his wife.

I am called a 'Saint' by some. Not. I am a Sinner.
I am told I am a 'Martyr' by others. NOT! I am bound by my own words, period. I am part of a Covenant that God has witnessed, and He does not break Covenant!
I am told that I am not facing reality... Oh, yes I am! But salvation of not only myself, but also my Spouse is at stake.
I am told that I hurt my children by my stubborn reluctance to move on, to 'get on with my life'... have you read Elizabeth Marquardt's book?
I am told that my problem is that I have lumped all men in the same category, and am 'afraid' to trust again.... NOT!

And some, including priests, have given in to the prevailing societal attitudes and say... you have made your point, but it has been long enough now that you can be 'free' to take care of yourself, pointing out that I should not have to be 'alone' in old age.... and our own Tribunal tells me that (in spite of never having been given any evidence to prove this fact) I am a 'former spouse'... while my CHURCH tells me that our marriage is to be considered VALID until proven to have been Null. In the eyes of the Church Herself, WE are married... until death parts us... no matter what man's Civil courts say to the contrary.

I am divorced in man's eyes only, married, and carrying my cross daily. I am not a martyr, I am a Stander, obedient to my God, my Lord and Savior, actively living my vows, my vocation, my role as spouse. I am doing what I promised to do on our wedding day. That makes me not a hero, not a martyr, not a pitiable figure in the least. I am strong in His company.

He says it takes two or three to make a Covenant. He and I say it exists, no matter who tries to say it does not. I am His Obedient Servant, with His help. For He thunders "For I hate divorce..." in Malachi 2:16.

I stand in the gap for my spouse, who has been deceived, just as so many of today's society, including many Tribunal members, priests and ministers.

Our vows:
The groom says:I (...), take you (...) to be my wife.
I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad,
in sickness and in health.
I will love you and honor you all the days of my life.

The bride says:I (...), take you (...) to be my husband.
I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad,
in sickness and in health.
I will love you and honor you all the days of my life.

"Right is still right if nobody is right,
and wrong is still wrong if everybody is wrong,"

Archbishop Fulton J Sheen author of The Life of Christ

“In many parts of the world, the family is under siege.
It is opposed by an anti-life mentality as is seen in contraception,
abortion, infanticide and euthanasia. It is scorned and banalized
by pornography, desecrated by fornication and adultery, mocked by homosexuality,
sabotaged by irregular unions and cut in two by divorce.”
~~ Cardinal Arinze

But it is also proper to recognize the value of the witness of those spouses who, even when abandoned by their partner, with the strength of faith and of Christian hope have not entered a new union: These spouses too give an authentic witness to fidelity, of which the world today has a great need. For this reason they must be encouraged and helped by the pastors and the faithful of the church.
~~FAMILIARIS CONSORTIO Pope John Paul II 12/15/1981 (Sec 20)

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Happy Birthday, Son in Law!!

And many more.
God bless the husband of my oldest, the father of my first two grandchildren.

Wish I could get pictures and music in here... someday I will know

The Answer, My Friend, May be Blowin in the Wind...

Until perhaps now....There may be some hope that things could change:


VATICAN CITY — The Vatican singled out divorcés who remarry and politicians who support abortion yesterday, in criticizing those among the faithful who receive Holy Communion while in a state of mortal sin.

An 85-page draft details abuses of the sacrament and cites a need for better instruction to ensure it remains sacred. The final document is to be developed at a global synod of bishops Oct. 2-23 in Rome.

The text suggests that Latin be used in international liturgical gatherings so that all priests involved can understand the proceedings, and that parishes consider using more Gregorian chants to prevent "profane" types of music from being played.

It also calls for priests not to be "showmen" who draw attention to themselves, and says lay people should have a "minimal" presence in Masses.

The document strongly laments the fact that fewer and fewer Catholics attend Mass on Sundays — in some countries, only 5 percent — and that fewer are going to confession. As a result, it says, many Catholics are living in a state of mortal sin when they receive Holy Communion. AP

So I did a little searching and found the document that is referred to in this article....



Part 1
Chapter 2
The Close Bond Between the Eucharist and Penance

21. The Sacrament of Penance restores the bonds of communion broken by mortal sin.37 Consequently, the relation of the Eucharist to the Sacrament of Penance deserves particular attention. The responses point out the need to treat the Sacrament of Penance as geared towards the Eucharist and the Church, understanding it to be the necessary condition for encountering and adoring, in a spirit of holiness and purity of heart, the Lord who is All-Holy. Jesus washed the feet of his Apostles to indicate the holiness of the Eucharistic mystery. St. Paul affirms that sin is a profanation likened to prostitution, because our bodies are one with Christ (cf. 1 Cor 6:15-17). Thus, for example, St. Csarius of Arles states: “every time we come to Church, we set our souls in order according to the state of God’s Temple. Do you want to find a resplendent basilica? Then, don’t soil your spirit with the uncleanliness of sin.”38

The relation of the Eucharist to Penance in today’s society greatly depends on both a sense of sin and a sense of the sacred. The distinction between good and evil oftentimes becomes a subjective matter. People today, by insisting that conscience is strictly a personal affair, risk losing a sense of sin.

22. Many Lineamenta responses refer to the rapport between the Eucharist and Reconciliation.

In many countries, persons have lost, or are gradually losing, an awareness that conversion is necessary for receiving the Eucharist. Its connection with the Sacrament of Penance is not always understood, e.g., the necessity of being in the state of grace before receiving Holy Communion. As a result, the obligation of confessing mortal sins is forgotten.39

The idea of communion as “food for the journey” has also caused a minimization of the necessity of being in the state of grace. Instead, just as proper nourishment presupposes a healthy, living being, so the Eucharist requires that a person be in the state of grace so the Baptismal commitment can be re-enforced. How can a person be in the state of mortal sin and receive the One who is a “medicine” of immortality and an “antidote” to death.40

Where many faithful know that they cannot receive communion while in mortal sin, they do not have a clear idea of what constitutes mortal sin. Others give no thought to it. Oftentimes, the situation creates a vicious circle: “I won’t receive communion because I have not gone to confession; I don’t go to confession, because I have no sins to confess.” Though such an attitude can be traced to a variety of causes, the principal one is a lack of proper catechesis on the subject.

Another rather widespread problem is created by a lack of access to the Sacrament of Penance at convenient times. In some countries, individual confessions have been eliminated. At most, the Sacrament is celebrated twice a year, during a communal liturgy, resulting in a hybrid form of the Sacrament which draws from both the second and third rites provided in the ritual.

Certainly, thought needs to be given to the great disproportion between the many who receive Holy Communion and the few who go to confession. The faithful frequently receive Holy Communion, without even thinking that they might be in the state of mortal sin. As a result, the receiving of Holy Communion by those who are divorced and civilly remarried is a common occurrence in various countries. At funeral Masses, weddings or other celebrations, many receive Holy Communion only out of the generally-held, mistaken conviction that a person cannot participate at Mass without receiving Holy Communion.

23. Apart from the fore-mentioned pastoral problems, many responses were very encouraging. They call for an awareness of the proper conditions for receiving Holy Communion and the necessity of the Sacrament of Penance, which, preceded by an examination of conscience, prepares the heart, purifying it of sin. To achieve this, the responses mention that the connection between the two sacraments be often treated in homilies.

Some wished that serious thought be given to reverting to the Eucharistic fast practised by the Eastern Churches.41 Fasting relies on self-control which has recourse to the will and leads to the purification of mind and heart. St. Athanasius states: “Do you want to know what fasting does? ... it casts out demons and liberates us from evil thoughts; it raises the mind and purifies the heart.”42 The Lenten liturgy calls for the purification of the heart through fasting and silence, as St. Basil recommends.43 Some Lineamenta responses raised the question of the timeliness of returning to the obligation of the three-hour Eucharistic fast.

Greater effort is needed in providing the opportunity for individual confessions. This could possibly be done in conjunction with neighbouring parishes, not only on Saturdays and Sundays but especially during Advent and Lent. Through preaching and catechesis much can be accomplished to restore a sense of sin and penitential practice, which will counteract the difficulties resulting from a secularized mentality.

Some feel that confessions should be heard before Mass, adapting the schedule to the penitent’s needs and offering the possibility of approaching the Sacrament of Penance even during the Eucharistic celebration, as recommended in the Apostolic Letter Misericordia Dei.44

Priests need to see that in administrating the Sacrament of Penance they themselves are a particular sign and instrument of God’s mercy. The Church is deeply grateful to priests who zealously hear confessions so the faithful can receive and encounter Christ in the Eucharist. The faithful will be more inclined to go to confession, if they see the priest exercising his ministry in the confessional, as seen in the example in our day of St. Leopold Mandić, St. Padre Pio of Pietrelcina and many other holy pastors.

Wise words

Long ago, I took a stand that I could not cooperate with a forced divorce by signing and agreeing to it, due to my core inner values, and my deep beliefs that civil law cannot undo what was done in our Church, no matter how hard they may try, and no matter what anyone else had to say about it. Whether I agreed or not, it would not change the fact that God witnessed the vows spoken that day long before any papers were served.

On the day that those papers came, finally, after having been told repeatedly that they would not be coming, and then being told that he was 'just checking' on his rights....and then being asked if he could hand them to me when he came for our younger two children's birthday party....and being told no... I told the process server that I would not sign them. I asked him to pray for us, and told him that I did not believe in divorce. He agreed, and told me he would note time and date of service, and said that he and his wife would pray for us.

I had already taken my stand long before that date. Stated clearly for anyone interested to hear, to my husband, to our counselors, to our priest, to the 12 Step program and friends, family, children. My vows were til death separated us, period.

In Scripture, we are told that it takes one or two witnesses to make a covenant. And God does not ever break Covenant. He is a witness to our covenant. I am a witness to our Covenant. And we had many others who witnessed it. Man cannot destroy a Covenant that God witnessed.

Today, many think that man can do this, including many in our Church, on our Tribunals. In spite of repeatedly being cautioned that too many Declarations of Nullity were being found in our country, by JPII, it continues.

I came across a quote today that says what I said but on a different topic, and much better than I said it: Yes, Joan Andrew Bell is a VERY wise woman

"I will not cooperate with immoral, unjust laws corruptly and cowardly imposed on the American people for the sake of pretending to solve social and economic problems by murdering innocent children...Indeed, I will not obey unjust laws nor consent to cooperate with the murder of the sacred lives of God's precious children. I could no more adhere to the unjust laws of this land, or in any way give credence to evil enshrined in law, than deny God Himself."

If I just simply substitute a few words, it would be my stand for the past 20 plus years:

"I will not cooperate with immoral, unjust laws corruptly and cowardly imposed on the American people for the sake of pretending to solve social and economic problems by attempting to dissolve indissoluble marriages ...Indeed, I will not obey unjust laws nor consent to cooperate with the destruction of the sacred marriages by forced, unilateral no fault divorce at the whim of one who abandons their vows. I could no more adhere to the unjust laws of this land, or in any way give credence to evil enshrined in law, than deny God Himself."

Yes, Joan Andrew Bell is a VERY wise woman whose words fit many aspects of today's society.

Thank you, Joan Andrews Bell! I have long admired your courage.

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