Saturday, August 05, 2006

"Why Do I Verbally Put Down My Spouse?"

I have 'edited' only by adding this color to emphasize some points.

HT To Diane Sollee of smartmarriages:

Why Do I Verbally Put Down My Spouse?
Frustration often leads to harsh words and later regret. Understanding why helps to keep things positive.

Anytime I get angry towards my wife, I find myself cutting her down verbally. Can you help me put a stop to it?

When a man and woman exchange rings on the altar, they do so with the hopes of a marriage filled with joy and satisfaction. As they turn and walk through the aisle, they anticipate a storybook ending of a life filled with only good things. And for a while, that’s the way things are…then the words fly.

In all relationships, we seek happiness. We often look to our partner as the main conduit to our piece of mind. We figure that if our wife or husband were wise enough, strong enough and resourceful enough, they’d figure out what we need and meet them without hesitation. After all, he or she did that when we were dating, right?

Feeling angry in your marriage is a sure sign that your needs aren’t being met. You assume that your desires are reasonable and frankly, any reasonable person should be able to meet them. In some cases, you may have a need to be heard. In others, it might be the need for words of support or appreciation. Sometimes you might need physical touch. These are things you can’t give yourself and as far as you're concerned, if your partner isn’t up to the task, he or she has let you down.

This type of disappointment, especially if it happens repeatedly, leads to resentment. And resentment is the birthplace of anger. As you get more and more upset, it’s only a matter of time until it affects the way you treat your spouse. Putdowns are an expression of anger. Not only do you hurt your spouse, but being nasty ultimately boomerangs back toward you—you end up feeling ashamed and angry with yourself for your behavior. This starts the cycle all over again: as you feel the anger mounting, you blame your partner for it, leading to more resentment, more anger and more putdowns. Ironically, when you resort to putting down your mate, you end up getting less of what you want out of the relationship because he or she pulls away.

There are ways to stop the cycle of anger and resentment, though:

Adjust Your Expectations: Studies show the happiest couples in marriage go into it with realistic expectations. Anticipating that your partner will meet all of your needs all of the time is a sure way to fuel resentment.

Give: Instead of seeing marriage as a place to get all your needs met, learn to view your relationship as a place where you can learn how to give generously. The odds are, if you selflessly focus your attention on pleasing your partner, over time he or she will work vigorously to make you happy.

Demonstrate Compassion: Empathic caring is the antidote for resentment. When you are filled with loving and nurturing thoughts for your partner, it’s virtually impossible to intentionally hurt him or her. By giving the gift of compassion, you can form stronger bonds and a more loving, life-long connection.

Accept Responsibility: When you lose it and say hurtful things, it’s human nature to blame someone else for "making me feel this way." You, and only you, are responsible for your actions, and your reactions in marriage. You’ve got the power to make your marriage spectacular, don’t permit yourself to make it anything less than that.

The road from wedding day bliss to long-term happiness has many bumps, but when you treat your partner with compassion and refrain from spitting venom when angry, you’ll make it through the rough times with dignity, respect and a deeper love for each other.

Dr. Haltzman is a clinical assistant professor of psychiatry at Brown University. He is the author of "The Secrets of Happily Married Men: Eight Ways to Win Your Wife’s Heart Forever." You can find Dr. Haltzman at

Fwd: Walid to Speak in Philadelphia Tomorrow and major media

This one came about an hour or so ago.....

---------- Forwarded message ----------


Walid Shoebat is to speak at The Christian Life Center tomorrow (August 6) morning in Bensalem for full details and times go to or email me at

All supporters welcome

Walid will also appear on Fox and Friends on Fox News Channel at 7.50 am in the morning tomorrow August 6th, again on Fox News the Big Story between 10.00 pm -10.30 pm in the same evening. On Monday August 7th Walid will appear on MSNBC between 4 pm and 5 pm and on Fox News between 5 pm and 6 pm immediately after.

For our Connecticut supporters you can hear Walid on WTIC between 10 and 12 pm on Monday morning and for our listeners in Calgary Alberta Walid will be on the Mike Rutherford show on QR77. I thing this show is on at around 11.05am local time in Calgary but please check the QR77 web site.

We have many other national syndicated shows interested including the Laura Ingraham Show #5 rated show in the country and Larry Elder also a highly rated show national show has asked Walid to return for a second interview next thursday. He just did a full hour last Thursday. Walid was also on the Gordon Liddy Show yesterday

Zak Anani will also be on Fox and Friends on Tuesday morning for his fourth appearance on Fox since he started working with us.

The truth is finally coming to the American people and we will not stop till our government starts to do what is really necessary to defeat this evil.



Fwd: More of Hollywood ought to apologize like Mel did - Fr. Tom Euteneuer

This came in my email yesterday, and I just got to it today. Another interesting viewpoint, I think.

UPDATE: Something in the forwarded email apparently issued a pop up that I am not sure is good. I am providing the link to Fr Euteneuer's article.

God bless!

----Original Message----
More of Hollywood ought to apologize like Mel did - Fr. Tom Euteneuer

Venerable Matt Talbot, Irish, Alcoholic, Saintly, Recovered

I have a recovering friend who is very doubtful that Venerable Matt Talbot will ever be canonized. His reason is that one needs to have provable physical miracles in order to be Beatified and then later, Canonized.

Matt Talbot's 'miracles' are not provable with that kind of certainty, because those who recover from the acute, chronic potentially fatal family disease of alcoholism cannot prove that he has aided that recovery. Theirs is a more spiritual recovery than physical, though alcoholism has its physical, mental, emotional and spiritual components.

But for those who HAVE looked to this man's life for the key to heal, they know... they know. They need no 'proof'. They know.

God bless!

---------- Forwarded message ----------

Will pray. Ask them to speak to Venerable Matt Talbot, and he can help, also, as well as AA/Alanon.

There is another that I had promised info on Matt Talbot, so I was gathering my links together. I had not yet blogged nor sent them to my friend, but have them listed and ready to go...  you can send them on if you wish to.

"Three things I cannot escape: the eye of God, the voice of conscience, the stroke of death. In company, guard your tongue. In your family, guard your temper. When alone guard your thoughts." ~~Venerable Matt Talbot

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Novena to Saint Teresa Benedicta of the Cross (Edith Stein) Day 5

Novena to Saint Teresa Benedicta of the Cross (Edith Stein)

Day 5 ­ Tuesday, August 4th to August 5th, 1942
From Amersfoort to Westerbork

On Tuesday evening, August 4th, the prisoners were loaded on to a railway-coach and taken to the railway-station at Amersfoort, under strict orders not to raise the curtains of their compartments. From the cries of the station-master they gathered that their train was on its way to Westerbork. Passing Apeldoorn, Zwolle, Meppel Hogeven, the train reached Hooghalen, in North Holland, so many fresh names on their way of the cross.

The Westerbork assembly camp may be five kilometers from the Hooghalen railway-station. The train carrying our prisoners came to a stop in an open stretch of country, where they descended from the coaches; it must have been about three o’clock in the morning. A detachment of twenty men wearing armbands was waiting to help them transfer their luggage to two horse-drawn wagons, on to which the sick, the old and the religious also mounted. The others were herded in the dark across fields, through woods and hedges for an hour till they reached the camp. By now, it was the morning of August 5th, Wednesday.

Gospel Reading

"Pilate’s soldiers then took Jesus into the Governor’s headquarters, where they collected the whole company round him. First they stripped him and dressed him in a scarlet mantle; and plaiting a crown of thorns they placed it on his head, with a cane in his right hand. Falling on their knees before him they jeered at him: ‘Hail, King of the Jews!’ They spat on him and used the cane to beat him about the head. Finally, when the mockery was over, they took off the mantle and dressed him in his own clothes." Matthew 27: 27-31

Our Father, Hail Mary, Glory be
(Any suitable prayer may be said here)
Saint Edith, Pray For Us!

Another Update on Baby Peter Herridge (Catherine Herridge's Son)

Greta Van Susteren has another update on Baby Peter and Catherine Herridge on her blog:

E-mail No. 1

Greta, wanted to drop you a line about our trip back. I know you spoke to JD. We are thrilled to be home again. Leaving Pittsburgh was a very emotional day — and it has taken me a couple of days to digest it.

We packed up two months of living there into a couple of suitcases. It felt really liberating to throw out a lot of Peter's old medicine, like the vitamin D which his bad liver couldn't process and his diuretics because his body chemistry was all screwed up.

On the way out we stopped by the hospital to leave some gifts and cards. It is so hard to know how to thank people who saved your kid. I know it's their job, but it seems like whatever you do is not enough. So I decided I would go in person, one more time, to thank them and drop off a picture of Peter looking healthy and happy.

Our first stop was the PICU (that's what the doctors call the pediatric ICU). Peter spent a month there. Some kids make it out while others don't. I ran into one of Peter's nurses, Joe, on the way in and showed him the new picture of Peter. As we talked, I felt that really strong emotion that is down in your gut. It wasn't sadness, but just an overwhelming feeling. Seeing how thrilled Joe was, reminded me that these people work so hard to save these small kids. And when one makes it out of the PICU, it is a real personal victory for them.

As I left I saw a woman whose child went into the PICU at the same time Peter did. I'm not sure how to describe it, but I guess I felt fortunate and guilty at the time because her child was still sick and still there and we were heading home to D.C.

Our next stop was 7N — that is the transplant floor at Children's Hospital. They were thrilled for the gift (a huge breakfast basket with bagels and stuff — these folks are on their feet constantly and really appreciate a good snack). The charge nurse said thanks weren't necessary, she just wanted me to promise that we wouldn't be back unless Peter needed a "little tune up."

All she wanted to do was put Peter's picture on the wall. They have a huge glass case on 7N where they put all the kids who've had transplants. It's like a giant collage, it's packed. There must be 500 kids on the wall. I felt really moved to watch her put his picture there, it was terrific to think he had graduated.

As we drove out of town, my mind kept flashing back to our trip to Pittsburgh on June 4th — two days before the transplant. We were going at break neck speed because Peter had become so ill, they wanted him in the hospital as soon as we could get him there. I remember driving with my husband and silently hoping that he was going to make it. I don't think any of us really understood how sick he was. Maybe that was a good thing because Dr Mazariegos later told us that without the liver he would not have lived to see the end of the summer.

We feel like we are floating again to be home. We can't wait to see you and show you all the new tricks Peter has learned.


Catherine, JD, Jamie and baby Peter

Friday, August 04, 2006

Novena to Saint Teresa Benedicta of the Cross (Edith Stein) Day 4

Novena to Saint Teresa Benedicta of the Cross (Edith Stein)

Day 4 ­ Monday, August 3rd to August 4th, 1942
At the Amersfoort transit-camp

When the vans reached the camp, they emptied their passengers who were taken over by the S.S. guards. These began to drive them, cursing and swearing, beating them on their backs with their truncheons, into a hut where they were to pass the night without having had a meal.

The hut was divided into two sections, one for men, one for women. It was separated from the main lager by a barbed-wire fence. Altogether, the lager held at that moment, about three hundred men, women and children.

The beds were iron frames arranged in a double tier, without mattresses of any kind. Our prisoners threw themselves on the bare springs trying to snatch a few minutes sleep; but few slept that night, if only because the guards kept switching the lights off and on, from time to time, as a precaution against attempts to escape, which was next to impossible in any case. Their cold harsh voices filled the prisoners with anxiety about the future and, in these circumstances, it is anxiety which can turn a prison into a hell on earth.

The religious grouped themselves spontaneously into a little community which regarded Saint Edith as its Superior, so unquestionable was the ascendancy of her spirit. Arrangements were made to recite the Breviary, the Rosary and to meditate. A copy of the Imitation of Christ which had been smuggled into the camp provided matter for meditation. The Confiteor was sung daily, despite the catcalls of the guards.

The two Trappist priests were unable to celebrate Holy Mass and distribute Holy Communion at Amersfoort; but they heard confessions and did what they could to redress the morale of the internees, shaken by the sudden change in their fortunes. Their presence was a blessing, all the more so, since it was generally felt that the journey was a ‘journey to heaven’ as one Sister put it; for them their would be no return. On one occasion, the guards stood the two Trappist Fathers against a wall and pointed their guns at them, in the presence of the Sisters — all for a joke.

The prisoners were resigned to their fate; no one criticized the Dutch Bishops for the pastoral letter, the publication of which was the immediate cause of their distress, for no one knew whether there were not other causes at work.

Twice a day the prisoners were granted a respite; they were allowed to walk around inside their barbed-wire enclosure for ten to fifteen minutes under the watchful eyes of their German guards. The hygienic facilities in the camp can be left to the imagination. The guards forced them to stand for hours waiting for the roll-call to take place. One starving internee picked up a piece of dry bread that had been thrown away; for the ‘theft’, the entire camp was punished by being made to stand for hours on end in the barracks-square, until they began to drop down from sheer exhaustion. It was the signal for a series of kickings and beatings as the guards tried to force their prisoners onto their feet again.

Gospel Readings

"You will then be handed over for punishment and execution and men of all nations will hate you for your allegiance to me." Matthew 24:9

"Jesus was led off under arrest to the house of Caiaphas the High Priest, where the lawyers and elders were assembled ... The chief priests and the whole Council tried to find some allegation against Jesus on which a death-sentence could be based, but they failed to find one ... The High Priest tore his robes and exclaimed, ‘Blasphemy! Need we call further witnesses? You have heard the blasphemy. What is your opinion?’ ‘He is guilty,’ they answered; ‘he should die.’ Then they spat in his face and beat him with their fists." Matthew 26:57

"The men who were guarding Jesus mocked him. They beat him, they blindfolded him and they kept asking him, ‘Now, prophet, who hit you? Tell us that.’ And so they went on, heaping insults upon him." Luke 22: 63-65

"Herod and his troops treated him with contempt and ridicule." Luke 23:11

Our Father, Hail Mary, Glory be
(Any suitable prayer may be said here)
Saint Edith, Pray For Us!

Jackie Mason on Mel Gibson

I have tried to link directly to the video clip, but I am not very good at this. They don't work, but go to Neil Cavuto's videos to see the one below:

Enough Already? Comedian Jackie Mason comments on Mel Gibson incident

Comedian Jackie Mason comments on Mel Gibson incident

Thursday, August 03, 2006

Michael Levin

AP photo
Michael Levin, a former Pennsylvania man,
was among three Israeli soldiers killed in
fighting in Lebanon earlier this week,
the Israeli army said Wednesday.

Michael Levin is two years behind my son.

Michael Levin had grandparents who survived the time of the Holocaust.

Michael Levin knew at 15 that he wanted to emigrate to Israel, and also knew he wanted to be a paratrooper.

Michael Levin graduated from high school in 2002 in PA, said good bye to his family, moved to Israel, and began to live his dream. Recently, he was home on a visit, and heard what was going on in Israel, and returned to Israel to join his comrades, telling his family that it was the right thing to do.

Michael Levin was 22 years old, and was killed in battle, doing what he felt was right. Today, he was laid to rest in Israel, his parents and sisters surrounded by many who were there to pay tribute to their son.

Today, on the day of mourning for past tragedy, Tisha Bav, Michael Levin was laid to rest.

May he rest in peace. May his family have peace. May the Middle East come to a peaceful solution, soon, so that he (and others, on both sides of the borders) will not have died in vain.

God bless.

If anyone learns or knows the name of his grandfather's book, if published, please take the time to let me know. Thank you!

Forgiving Mel Gibson by Father Jonathan Morris

Forgiving Mel Gibson

by Father Jonathan Morris

August 2, 2006

Perspective is important, particularly when celebrities are involved. That is why I have let a few days pass before getting out my pen. I was determined not to let my friendship with Mel distort my opinion of what happened last Friday and what it might mean.

Mel Gibson’s early morning arrest for suspected DUI, accompanied by his verbal tirade, has created quite the buzz for Hollywood reporters — and rightly so. Mel himself has called his drunken comments vitriolic and despicable, a shame to himself and to his family, and contrary to his faith. Newsworthy, I would say.

But let’s remember what “buzz” is. It’s viral-like gossip about what might be. In this case, the buzz in the newspapers, television, and particularly on the web has turned from what might have happened (Mel was quick to confirm the reports), to what the incident might mean.

Abraham Foxman, president of the Anti-Defamation League, was keen to push the envelope in these suppositions.

“His tirade finally reveals his true self and shows that his protestations during the debate over his film 'The Passion of the Christ,' that he is such a tolerant, loving person, were a sham. This confirms what all of us knew before, Mel Gibson is an anti-Semite and a bigot.”

Big words.

For over a year, I worked with Mel and his team during the filming, post-production, and marketing of "The Passion of the Christ." I sat with him in his on-set trailer, reviewed clips with him in the studio, discussed the script with him over the phone and in his Santa Monica offices, and planned pre-screenings of the movie for critics and opinion-makers all over Europe.

Now, Mel and I don’t agree on everything, not even about some aspects of theology. His traditionalist view of Catholicism is different than mine. Because of our differences, I was careful to get a few things straight before agreeing to work on "The Passion." I wanted to hear directly from him about his opinion of the Jews, in particular whether they could be blamed collectively — as a race or religion — for the killing of Jesus. Aware also of the accusations in the media regarding his apparent denial or minimalization of the Holocaust, I was intent on setting straight this part of his record.

Mel’s response to both of my inquiries over an extended period of time, in word and in action, was unequivocal. I knew then, as I know now, Mel is not an anti-Semite.

Also big words.

I speak confidently and unambiguously, because my experience in working on "The Passion" taught me something else about Mel. While some people are willing to put on facades and give a good “spin” to save face and a career, Mel Gibson cannot. He is painfully honest and incapable of writing or approving a public relations piece in which he does not believe whole-heartedly.

I saw this scrupulous conscious at work in his response to every false accusation of bigotry leveled at him in the months preceding the release of "The Passion." Many people wanted him to make sweeping public statements about religion, theology, and history — just to make sure he wasn’t a bigot. Instead, he focused his attention on producing a film about the greatest love story of all time, free from bigotry and in no way anti-Semitic. The world saw for itself a reflection of Mel’s soul.

On Monday Mel wrote a letter to the Jewish community. He requested forgiveness and asked Jewish community leaders for help in working toward long-term reconciliation. Much to his credit, Abraham Foxman responded graciously.

I was impressed.

Yesterday, on FOX News Radio with Spencer Hughes, I applauded Mr. Foxman for his nobility in having accepted Mel’s apology. Today, however, I was surprised to see Mr. Foxman’s op-ed in the New York Post which calls into question Mel’s sincerity:

"I'm still skeptical because these are still words from his handlers — the same people who brought you the first statement that didn't acknowledge his anti-Semitism. I'd like to hear from the man himself. These words are still from his handlers — Mel Gibson's words in the police blotter, we know those are from him."

If Mr. Foxman thinks Mel’s handlers wrote and distributed the statement without Mel’s full consent, he doesn’t know Mel Gibson. To ask for yet another apology is out of place and, in my opinion, reflects badly on the organization Mr. Foxman represents.

Mel’s deplorable comments came from somewhere. In his inebriated state, he revealed what was on his mind in a given moment. Together with Mel, I condemn his statements about Jewish people and say they are not true. But I praise him for what is on his mind now, in cold and reflective sobriety, as expressed in his first apology and his subsequent letter to the Jewish community.

Now is a time for forgiveness. Mel has asked for it. We should give it.

God bless, Father Jonathan

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Novena to Saint Teresa Benedicta of the Cross (Edith Stein) Day 3

Novena to Saint Teresa Benedicta of the Cross (Edith Stein)

Day 3 ­ Sunday, August 2nd to August 3rd, 1942
From Echt to Amersfoort

The police van drove our Saint Edith and her sister, Rosa, from the Carmel of Echt to the police headquarters in Roermond, first station on their way of the cross. Late the same day, they were transported to the Amersfoort transit camp.

That Sunday, August 2nd, the Nazis raffled about three hundred Hebrew Catholics throughout Holland, bringing them to Amersfoort, from the north and the south of the country. The transport from Roermond in the south was composed of two police vans, one packed with thirteen, the other with seventeen persons. The one in which our Edith travelled, was taking, apart from Rosa, six other female religious, all Hebrew Catholics. These included Sister Judith Mendez da Costa, a Dominican nun, and two Trappistines, sisters germain, from the remarkable family, Löb; of their three brothers, arrested with them, two were Trappists priests and one, a lay brother of the same Order. The wife and children of the writer Herman de Man travelled in the same transport.

The journey from Roermond to Amersfoort was usually a matter of three to four hours; but, on this occasion, the driver lost his way on account of the blackout and brought the prisoners to Amersfoort only at three o’clock the next morning, Monday August 3rd.

Gospel Reading

"And Jesus said to them: ‘The cup that I drink you will drink; and with the baptism with which I am baptized, you will be baptized.’" Mark 10:39

Our Father, Hail Mary, Glory be
(Any suitable prayer may be said here)
Saint Edith, Pray For Us!

Wednesday, August 02, 2006

Novena to Saint Teresa Benedicta of the Cross (Edith Stein) Day 2

Novena to Saint Teresa Benedicta of the Cross (Edith Stein)

Day 2 ­ Sunday, August 2nd, 1942
Carmel of Echt, Holland

What happened that day in the Carmel of Echt, is now known the world over; but the circumstances need to be recalled.

The Catholic Bishops of Holland had issued a joint protest against the deportation of Dutch Jews by the Nazis, which they instructed was to be read out at every Mass in all churches on Sunday, July 26th. Prior to that, the Bishops had procured an exemption from deportation for Catholics of Jewish origin, from the Nazi authorities, who accorded the privilege on condition that the persons concerned had belonged to a Christian organization before January 1941.

The pastoral letter of the Bishops created apprehension about the possibility of a Nazi reaction; it was soon forthcoming. On August 2nd, Christians of Jewish origin of every religious community in the country were arrested and carried off by the Gestapo. The General-Commissar Schmidt announced publicly, that he was taking reprisals for the pastoral letter of the 26th July. He specified, saying:

"We are compelled to regard the Catholic Jews as our worst enemies and consequently see to their deportation to the East with all possible speed."

The savage reaction of the Nazis to the pastoral letter of the Dutch Bishops is what motivated His Holiness, Pius XII, to withhold and destroy his own protest which he had already composed. If such be the reaction to the protest of the Dutch Bishops, he argued, what might not be the reaction to a protest of the Pope. On his orders, the monasteries and convents throughout Italy had taken in Jewish refugees fleeing the persecution of the Germans. The Vatican itself was fill to overflowing with Jews who had come to its doors seeking refuge.

In execution of the decision of General-Commissar Schmidt, two S.S. men turned up at the Carmel of Echt to carry off our Saint Edith and her sister, Rosa, in a police-van.

The deportation of our Martyr and her sister was an act, undertaken in hatred of the faith, as a reprisal for the condemnation of the Nazi persecution of the Jews by the Catholic Hierarchy of Holland; that our Martyr was of Jewish origin, would not in itself, have furnished a sufficient cause for her deportation and death.

Gospel Reading

"Turning to the Chief Priests, the officers of the temple police and the elders who had come to seize him, he said: ‘Do you take me for a bandit that you have come out with swords and cudgels to arrest me? Day after day, when I was in the temple with you, you kept your hands off me. But this is your moment - the hour when darkness reigns!’ Then they arrested him and led him away." Luke 22: 52-53

Our Father, Hail Mary, Glory Be
(Any suitable prayer may be said here)
Saint Edith, Pray For Us!

Tuesday, August 01, 2006

"I am deeply ashamed of everything I said...." Mel Gibson

This was the first statement from Mel Gibson:

After drinking alcohol on Thursday night, I did a number of things that were very wrong and for which I am ashamed.

I drove a car when I should not have, and was stopped by the LA County Sheriffs. The arresting officer was just doing his job and I feel fortunate that I was apprehended before I caused injury to any other person.

I acted like a person completely out of control when I was arrested, and said things that I do not believe to be true and which are despicable. I am deeply ashamed of everything I said, and I apologize to anyone who I have offended.

Also, I take this opportunity to apologize to the deputies involved for my belligerent behavior. They have always been there for me in my community and indeed probably saved me from myself.

I disgraced myself and my family with my behavior and for that I am truly sorry.

I have battled with the disease of alcoholism for all of my adult life and profoundly regret my horrific relapse. I apologize for any behavior unbecoming of me in my inebriated state and have already taken necessary steps to ensure my return to health.

I have taught my children that when you apologize, you own what you did, you get specific about what you did, and you do not JUSTIFY what you did, nor do you blame anyone else. You also do not 'take back' your apology by adding "But if you hadn't...then I wouldn't have..."

In the above statement, Mel Gibson blamed only himself. Though he did not get specific about what he had said, he did say that his words were despicable, and that he was ashamed of everything he had said. Though his words included anti-Semitic ranting, he had also used other words to a female officer, from what was published. In this short statement, he apologized to any one he may have offended by his 'despicable words'.

He admitted that he had been drinking, had had too much to drink, and that he has had a horrific relapse in his battle with alcoholism (which he HAS publically admitted in the past).

He was arrested, he paid his bail, and he will face the consequences.

What is the difference between Mel Gibson and Patrick Kennedy?

One lied about where he was going when he had the car accident, and never took a blood alcohol test (hence we do not know if it was 'just Ambien' or a combination), and did not apologize for his behavior. Both were public. Both have admitted to having a problem in the past (though Patrick Kennedy had just been in treatment for prescription drugs... Ambien is also a prescription drug).

People in the news thought it wonderful how 'honest' Patrick was about his problem, and many began to 'explain' his behavior by blaming the 'curse' of the Kennedy's. Others called him a 'boy, in spite of the fact that he is an adult, and a member of our national legislative body!!

One made a public statement that listed what HE had done, and called it for what it was. The other made a public statement that 'explained away' his behavior and turned it into a political statement.

I do not condone anything that Mel Gibson said.

Do I believe he meant it all? No, not necessarily so.

I have heard too many drunks over my nearly sixty years who, when backed into a corner, come out roaring a lot of things that they later cannot believe they have said.

Do I subscribe to the old adage that wine (alcohol) makes one speak truth? Nope, heard too many lies over those same years come out of the mouths of quiet drinkers and roaring drunks/drug users.

And in those same nearly sixty years, I have also had a few episodes of my own with too much to drink and the resulting embarrassing events that would NEVER have happened if I had not been drunk at the time. Mine were stupid stuff, but did include some arguments that got out of hand, and things were said that were not meant, but instead, were designed to ZING. Push a button. Hurt someone who had (in my state of mind) hurt me.

Do I believe he meant what he said in his apology? Yes. I have heard and read too many like Patrick Kennedy's. Placebo words, not heart words.

When one calls his own behavior and the results things like despicable, horrific, disgraceful, etc, (and it was every one of those), instead of trying to make it seem "not quite so bad", I have to admit that it takes on an air of honesty.

When he later comes out with an even more personal apology to very specific people (whether some want to accept it or not) I have even MORE of a tendency to accept the words as being real.

Today, Mel Gibson made a very specific apology.

Today, he was working one of the Steps, and making amends, offering to make reparation. He did not have to issue a second, more specific apology. But he did.

Today, though I am deeply disappointed in what he had done, I see another example of those 12 Steps in progress.

And he is right. He cannot do it alone. Those of us in the 12 Step Programs know that the ONLY way we can do anything is with God's help.

Mel Gibson did not ask you to go watch his latest movie in his apology. He did not promote a cause in his apology. That, in my estimation, is the difference between him and Patrick Kennedy.

Oh, and those police officers who arrested him and held him accountable... God bless you!

UNLIKE the Capital Police who did NOT hold another accountable, but instead helped to cover up and enable someone else's intoxication (whether by alcohol or Ambien), you HELPED him to face reality, face the consequences of his own actions. God bless you for that.

(CNN) -- There is no excuse, nor should there be any tolerance, for anyone who thinks or expresses any kind of anti-Semitic remark. I want to apologize specifically to everyone in the Jewish community for the vitriolic and harmful words that I said to a law enforcement officer the night I was arrested on a DUI charge.

I am a public person, and when I say something, either articulated and thought out, or blurted out in a moment of insanity, my words carry weight in the public arena. As a result, I must assume personal responsibility for my words and apologize directly to those who have been hurt and offended by those words.

The tenets of what I profess to believe necessitate that I exercise charity and tolerance as a way of life. Every human being is God's child, and if I wish to honor my God I have to honor his children. But please know from my heart that I am not an anti-Semite. I am not a bigot. Hatred of any kind goes against my faith.

I'm not just asking for forgiveness. I would like to take it one step further, and meet with leaders in the Jewish community, with whom I can have a one on one discussion to discern the appropriate path for healing.

I have begun an ongoing program of recovery and what I am now realizing is that I cannot do it alone. I am in the process of understanding where those vicious words came from during that drunken display, and I am asking the Jewish community, whom I have personally offended, to help me on my journey through recovery. Again, I am reaching out to the Jewish community for its help. I know there will be many in that community who will want nothing to do with me, and that would be understandable. But I pray that that door is not forever closed.

This is not about a film. Nor is it about artistic license. This is about real life and recognizing the consequences hurtful words can have. It's about existing in harmony in a world that seems to have gone mad.

Sadly, many gave Patrick Kennedy more credence, and will continue to 'elect him' without holding him accountable, but there are MANY already claiming that Mel Gibson's career is ended.

Novena to Saint Teresa Benedicta of the Cross (Edith Stein)

Novena to Saint Teresa Benedicta of the Cross (Edith Stein)

August 1 ­ August 9

The novena was composed by Elias Friedman, O.C.D., founder of the Association of Hebrew Catholics (AHC), who recommends it to all devotees of Saint Edith. The most suitable time to observe it would be from August 1 to August 9, in annual remembrance of the days spent by our saintly martyr in the death train, accompanied by her sister, Rosa, and many other Hebrew Catholics, on the way to the gas chambers of Auschwitz-Birkenau.

We present the Novena to the public, hoping thus to further devotion to our holy Carmelite and as a model for Hebrew Catholic’s to imitate. Edith Stein offered herself, like Jesus, our Lord and Messiah, as a victim of expiation for the redemption of her people and of mankind.

May our efforts hasten the day when all Israel shall proclaim:

Blessed is He who comes in the Name of the Lord

(Baruch haba beShem Adonai)

David Moss, President
Association of Hebrew Catholics

Novena - Preface

Day 1
Sat, Aug 1, 1942

Day 2
Sun, Aug 2, 1942

Day 3
Sun, Aug 2-3, 1942

Day 4
Mon, Aug 3-4, 1942

Day 5
Tue, Aug 4-5, 1942

Day 6
Wed, Aug 5-6, 1942

Day 7
Fri, Aug 7, 1942

Day 8
Fri, Aug 7-8, 1942

Day 9
Sun, Aug 9, 1942

Novena - Postscript

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Fwd: 700 Club today

This came while I was at work, but you may be able to catch a rerun of 700 Club, and O'Reilly is still coming...

God bless!

---------- Forwarded message ----------
From: < >
Date: Aug 1, 2006 12:25 PM
Subject: 700 Club today


Walid and Zak will appear on 700 Club today. Reminder Walid will also be on O'Reilly which was featured as the lead story on Fox yesterday for the show.



Charlie Crist Let My Daughter Die by Robert Schindler, Sr. July 31, 2006

From Cheryl Ford, RN this evening:

-----Original Message-----

Charlie Crist Let My Daughter Die

by Robert Schindler, Sr.
Posted July 31, 2006

As most Americans know, on March 31, 2005, my daughter, Terri Schindler Schiavo died of starvation and thirst after having her feeding tube removed by court order. The sad chain of events that concluded with Terri’s death ignited a media firestorm nationally and internationally. What few saw or heard was the callous inaction of aspiring governor Charlie Crist.

Florida Atty. Gen. Charlie Crist let my daughter die. He had it within his authority to save her life, but he turned a blind eye to her suffering. Even worse, he worked to ensure her death.

Terri lived in a neurologically compromised state for reasons that are still unknown, and my family wanted nothing more than permission to care for Terri for the span of her natural life. We were denied.

My daughter tenaciously fought for her life for more than 13 days after being deprived of the most basic, natural and constant need that we all share—the need for nourishment—food and water. Terri was not on a respirator, nor terminally ill. She was not dying, nor succumbing to a dreadful disease. She was disabled. She was dependent on others, but still very much a life, a woman, and a person.

Over the course of several years, our family, our lawyers, and our friends pleaded for help from local, county, and state police and regulatory agencies with constitutional and statutory authority to investigate the many sworn statements of extreme abuse and neglect suffered by our daughter.

Hoping to save my daughter’s life, our family sought the help of Attorney General Charlie Crist. Not only did Charlie Crist refuse our family lawful access to the assets of his office, but he violated his oath of office by actively cooperated with those in positions of political and judicial authority whom denied us legal access to the police and regulatory systems meant to protect the weak. Multiple sworn agents from responsible police and regulatory agencies who found probable cause to investigate allegations of abuse in Terri's judicial and physical care, were ordered to shut down those probes. This heavy-handedness made us powerless.

Information of direct interest to Attorney General Charlie Crist's office was directly delivered to his personal hands, and he refused to properly execute the duties of his office. And it was with deliberate decision that he failed to attend a scheduled
Tallahassee meeting with our family. On another occasion, we approached each other by chance. Upon recognizing me, Charlie Crist abruptly stopped and walked away.

That callous action encapsulates Charlie Crist. He walked away from a man whose daughter’s fate he controlled. At that moment, he turned his back on Terri. And he turned his back on the most fundamental duties of his office.

It is quite clear that Charlie Crist, to this day, has demonstrated no public affection for the cause of life, or Christianity, or any set of core values. He has been posturing to become governor for decades. With each voting audience he has crafted a message based on the expediency of the moment.

To add insult to injury, at a recent banquet, our alleged pro-life candidate for the Governor of Florida said the following about Judge George Greer and other judges involved in the death of my daughter, "You are heroes to all of us, and your defense of the judiciary and what is right is beyond admirable."

Through his actions, Charlie Crist has demonstrated that he has no regard for our most vulnerable citizens, the high duties of public office, or life itself. Charlie Crist’s celebration of the merciless judges who condemned Terri to death speaks to his true character.

Mr. Schindler is the father of Terri Schiavo, who suffered from a neurological injury for 15 years before dying March 31, 2005, from dehydration. Her family valiantly fought to keep her alive after a judge ordered her caretakers to stop providing nutrition or hydration.

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Cheryl Ford, RN (

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Monday, July 31, 2006

One Man's Thoughts on Lebanon and Israel

My friend, Marty Barrack, author of Second Exodus has written his own thoughts, illustrated by the simply profound scene above. He also mentioned Charles Krautkramer, who I also read, and tend to agree with on this matter.

Marty's book, Second Exodus, is excellent, and he is currently in final stages for another, Eternal Israel, as well as another entitled Father Hardon's Homilies and Reflections.

Second Exodus
is available from several sources .

Marty is currently recovering after surgery, and can use our prayers for continued progress toward full health.

Cuban President Fidel Castro Temporarily Gives Brother Power Due to Illness

Castro has temporarily turned over his country to his younger brother, as he had surgery tonight.

My earlier post on here about this brought a 'pop-up' that was not wanted. Sorry about that.

God bless!

Sunday, July 30, 2006

Colonel Rich Higgins Murdered by Hezbollah

On February 17, 1988, a month and a half after taking command of UN Observer Group Lebanon, LtCol Rich Higgins was captured by Hezbollah terrorists. At some unknown later date, he was murdered by his captors. His remains were eventually returned and interred at Quantico National Cemetery on December 30, 1991, a week after what would have been Rich and Robin's 14th wedding anniversary.
The official US designation for his captivity status was and is, hostage.

He was never officially considered a Prisoner of War and was never afforded the protections that designation implied.

I had been trying all day to remember his name. I have never forgotten HIM. Unfortunately, the image that goes through my mind when I think of him is a photo of a man hung with a blindfold over his eyes. I remember thinking how terrible it must have been for his wife to see that picture all over the news. I also remember thinking how terrible his captors were.

I also have not forgotten that he was NEVER ONCE treated like a Prisoner of War, because he was wearing the blue of the UN, and was not 'captured' by those wearing the uniform of another country.

Or that his wife had to fight for his right to have the POW medal, finally granted posthumously after a ten year or so struggle.

He was 'captured' by Islamofacists. His name?

Colonel Rich Higgins.

His Captors? Hezbollah.

Part of his story is also what made my ears perk up when I heard Michael New's story.

What have the two very different men got in common? One was wearing the UN blue, and one refused to do so, because it is NOT part of a US military uniform, nor part of the oath he took. One was not considered a POW because he wore the Blue of the UN, and the other was subjected to court martial for refusing to wear it to Macedonia after Clinton 'ordered' it.

But the name Colonel Higgins came back to me tonight listening to other Hezbollah captives. And the name Hezbollah had not really ever left my memory.

They are the captors of (among others)... Terry Anderson (for nearly seven years), Thomas Sutherland, Frank Reed, Joseph Cicippio, Edward Tracey, Allen Steen, Jesse Turner, Robert Polhill, and Fr Lawrence Jenco.

What is the point of this piece?

To remind myself why I do not like Hezbollah, why I don't trust the UN, why we as Americans need to wake up.... because those same Hezbollah that captured and killed our American USM Colonel Rich Higgins while WEARING the UN BLUE also hate Americans who do NOT wear it, as much as they hate Israelis.

And there are many believing that it is just those 'terrible Israelis' who fire into 'civilian targets' who are the cause for all that trouble over there .... forgetting that Hezbollah has a history...and that the UN did not protect our people even back then...even when wearing the Blue Insignia.

Colonel Rich Higgins deserves to be remembered!

Terry Anderson and all deserved to also be remembered.

And those pressuring us to trust the UN, to follow the UN, to let the UN handle the Middle East even longer... need to remember Colonel Rich Higgins, too.

Hezbollah is an enemy. And the UN has not kept the world safe from that enemy.

From Lt Colonel Robin Higgins:

When American service members are captured, they must be treated by us as "prisoners of war," not "hostages." A "hostage" is a civilian caught in the line of fire, and held for some sick political or financial reason. Service members are held because they represent to those who would harm us, all the perceived weaknesses of democracy. When servicemen or women are captured they behave as prisoners of war, not hostages.

They live day by day by the Code of Conduct:

"I am an American, fighting in the Armed Forces which guard my country and our way of life. I am prepared to give my life in their defense....I will never forget that I am an American, fighting for freedom, responsible for my actions, and dedicated to the principles which made my country free. I will trust in my God and in the United States of America."

Because Colonel Higgins' country always considered him a "hostage" and never a "prisoner of war," there were never any demands of international rules of treatment, no Red Cross visits, no insistence on medical care or humane treatment, no POW medal to signify what he endured.

The State Department, not the Defense Department, had the lead. That meant diplomacy, not military might. It meant no retribution, no retaliation, no rescue.

That had to do with the perceived political sensitivities of civilians being held at the same time, but let's not ever forget we owe a special debt to those who go into harm's way because of their unique bond to this country.

Whenever and wherever we commit American service members, we must acknowledge they will be subject to those who would harm them, whether in combat or terrorist acts.

We must ensure that:

1. This country has a clear, unambiguous, and achievable goal in taking this drastic step.

2. We are prepared to defend our men and women in uniform with all our will and with all our might when they fall.

3. And we do not send a peacekeeper where there is no peace.

UPDATE from LtCol Robin Higgins - USMC Retired...
After over 10 years of fighting with our govt on this, I have finally received a POW Medal for Rich. Of course, the Secretary of the Navy was quick to point out that this does not change his "official status" as a detainee or hostage or whatever. Supposedly that takes an Act of Congress -- really. But you know what an American will do for a piece of ribbon. Now I can finally get Rich's medals mounted.