|Link: The Who Would You Be in 1400 AD Test written by KnightlyKnave
New Year, New Plans, New Home
Today, I am turning in my notice to end my lease, and move to live with my aging and fragile Mom.
Thank you to those who prayed about this decsion. It was a difficult one to make for personal reasons, but it is necessary. As I have to give sixty days' notice, it won't be an overnight move, but sometime before Mar 1, I will be living at a new address (not all that far away, really).
It is NOT a lack of love for my Mom that this decision was so very difficult for me to make. It took until nearly the end of the year to truly make the decision, at times feeling as though I really have no choice in the matter. But my Mom wants to stay in her home, just as did HER Mom until she died with my then 19 year old mother near by. Mom was then a student nurse.
As I was growing up, I resisted strongly going into nursing, my own rebellion, when Mom felt that it would be a good choice for me. I did not want to be a nurse. Yet my very first job was as a nursing assistant, and I loved it. I then worked in a bobby pin factory and as a waitress, and I hated it... Mom said...go back to school and be a nurse. I said no.
Eventually, after being married, I returned to school, and became... a nurse. Though it has been a very difficult profession, I have loved it since graduating in 72.
Mom was right. I was called to be a nurse.
In asking for prayers during my struggle, I got an email from another nurse that hit me so very hard, because I knew that it was my answer, though I still tried very hard to ignore it. She said simply:
Go, you're being called.
It's a lovely gift for the Infant.
That was on Dec 17. I struggled internally until just after Christmas. But those words rang through me.
And finally, I surrendered.
I told my mother on Friday. She said... "I didn't think you were going to come, but I am glad that you are".
It is hard to admit when your Mom is right. It is sometimes harder to admit anyone is right. But, I do believe that these two nurses currently in my life... are right.
And so, I have written my notice to my landlord. I am once again facing packing and moving, knowing that it is NOT my final one after all. For when Mom joins Dad, as she will someday, and God calls her Home, I will face one more move.
Life is not always easy, but it does go on. Doing 'the right thing' helps.
The words to this also continue to ring in my heart:
Parents Wish (Single Mother)
"When you encounter difficulties and contradictions, do not try to break them, but bend them with gentleness and time."– St. Francis De SalesIt is not who is right, but what is right, that is of importance.~~Thomas H. Huxley"Right is still right if nobody is right,and wrong is still wrong if everybody is wrong,"Archbishop Fulton J Sheen
author of The Life of ChristLIFE IS PRECIOUS FROM CONCEPTION TO NATURAL DEATH. CHERISH IT! PROTECT IT.
Labels: Family, Fears, Parents, Parents Wish, Struggles
Today, a new search site has been launched, and Donovan has asked us to spread the word.
As the Mom of two adult adoptees, I have ALWAYS felt that it was their right to know their roots, for many reasons, but most importantly, for current medical histories.
As the Mom of one adult who has been reunited for nearly five years with both parents, and another who has been waiting for a response for three, it gives me great pleasure to help Donovan out by announcing his new website.
I also have to let you know that if there is anything missing at his registry that you feel is needed information in a search, just email him about it!
(He has a very searchable website, putting his webmaster to work doing things that the webmaster told him were impossible –but then found a way to do).
So, without more fanfare, for those of you still searching (be you the birth parent, adoptee or adoptive parent, or siblings…), this is the newest resource out there.
You are invited to MySearchAngel.net
You are invited to MySearchAngel adoptee/birth parent forums. MySearchAngel.net is an online community of members searching for adoptees and birth parents. We believe that you need to know your family. You deserve to know your family. others. We are hoping this website will provide you with the tools and resources to complete your search and reunite with your family.
Several options have been added from suggestions of members, and several features will also be added in the month of January. The forums are interactive for group members with options such as viewing recent posts, instant messaging, private messaging, email, birth parent and adoptee profile information page, and a search able registry is being constructed as we speak. Security and privacy options have also been added.
Click on Banner to be redirected to the website
Labels: Adoption, Adoption Search, Adoption Triad
President Gerald R Ford-- May He Rest in Peace
I remember John F Kennedy's funeral. I remember Jackie in her veil, Caroline standing by Mom, John-John saluting, the riderless horse, etc.
I remember Reagan's funeral. My grandson and I arrived in DC to hear the news that he had passed away. We chose to watch on TV, rather than try to see anything in the long lines of people that were in the area at that time of year. I remember Nancy saying good bye to her husband when they reached his final resting place.
Both were very impressive funerals.
But I was most impressed by today's coverage of former President Gerald Ford. Elegant, profound, much more simple, but oh, so very filled with personal symbolism!
The stop at the WWII Memorial was very moving. Seeing the veterans, the military women , and the Eagle Scouts (though they MUST have been cold!!) to honor him as well as the lights of the memorial itself was enough to bring tears to my eyes. But watching the nervousness of the bos'n mate as he prepared to pipe him ashore... something he has probably done many times in his career, but NEVER for a WWII vet who'd nearly died in the war, and gone on to become the 38th President of the USA... wow... I could just FEEL the desire to do it perfectly--his personal salute to the man.
That few minutes where the hearse pulled over will be part of my memory forever.
I remember a much younger Betty Ford and Gerald Ford, and I respected the man even more after they openly admitted to her drug and alcohol dependency. I know how many men leave their wives instead of standing by them, even aiding in the recovery by joining her in sobriety though he had no problem.
I remember my own mother saying good bye to her husband at the side of the casket, and could not imagine it needing to be so very public as it has been for our First Ladies!
But the rest of the State Funeral today is what impressed me, too. To enter the Capital Building on the House Side, and pause there with the Speaker's seat in the background was symbolic of the years of service he did there.
I was particularly moved by Vice President Cheney's talk.
Seeing Betty Ford so frail is very hard right now, at this time of my life, because of our own Mom's fragility.
Gerald Ford, May you rest in peace. My prayers are with your family.
Labels: Betty Ford, Funeral, Gerald R Ford