Fwd: Matt C. Abbott: "'No-fault' divorce: moms vs. dads"

There are some who GET IT!

So many others don't!

This is EVIL! And our American Tribunals should be ashamed of themselves for forcing Catholics to ENTER this evil...... and then stamp approval by declaring MANY VALID MARRIAGES TO BE NULL. May God have Mercy on your souls!

I also do NOT agree with everything that this Catholic attorney has said below, and completed at the website with Matt's column....

I DO agree with:

"In many parts of the world, the family is under siege.
It is opposed by an anti-life mentality as is seen in contraception, abortion, infanticide and euthanasia. It is scorned and banalized by pornography, desecrated by fornication and adultery, mocked by homosexuality, sabotaged by irregular unions ...and cut in two by divorce."
~~ Francis Cardinal Arinze

"Divorce tears marriage apart. It desolates both husband and wife. It leaves the children not only in tears but also in misery. We do not deny that there can be serious disagreement between husband and wife, but divorce is not the solution. When husband and wife have a disagreement, they should reflect, pray, sit together and discuss. Accept fault where you are wrong, ask for pardon, or consult a priest or other spiritual adviser, but do not divorce."
~~Francis Cardinal Arinze

GOD'S COMMAND:
1Cor 7:10-11
To the married I give charge, not I but the Lord, that the wife should not separate from her husband
(but if she does, let her remain single or else be reconciled to her husband) -- and that the husband should not divorce his wife.

GOD'S DECLARATION: MALACHI 2
13 And this again you do. You cover the LORD's altar with tears, with weeping and groaning because he no longer regards the offering or accepts it with favor at your hand. 14 You ask, "Why does he not?" Because the LORD was witness to the covenant between you and the wife of your youth, to whom you have been faithless, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant. 15 Has not the one God made and sustained for us the spirit of life? And what does he desire? Godly offspring. So take heed to yourselves, and let none be faithless to the wife of his youth. 16 "For I hate divorce, says the LORD the God of Israel, and covering one's garment with violence, says the LORD of hosts. So take heed to yourselves and do not be faithless."

JESUS WORDS:
Mark 10:
7 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, 8 and the two shall become one flesh.' So they are no longer two but one flesh. 9 What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder." 10 And in the house the disciples asked him again about this matter. 11 And he said to them, "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another, commits adultery against her; 12 and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery."

And MORE
in Matt 5:
31 "It was also said, 'Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.' 32 But I say to you that every one who divorces his wife, except on the ground of unchastity, makes her an adulteress; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.       (NOTE by WI Catholic... the original word is NOT adultery)

in Matt 19:
4 He answered, "Have you not read that he who made them from the beginning made them male and female, 5 and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? 6 So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder." 7 They said to him, "Why then did Moses command one to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?" 8 He said to them, "For your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. 9 And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for unchastity, and marries another, commits adultery."    (NOTE again, by WI Catholic... the original word is NOT adultery)

in Luke 16:18--"Every one who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and he who marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery.

ARE YOU LISTED THERE in any of those verses??


.... And yet, you write to me and DARE to tell me that divorce is NOT A SIN!!!!  You DARE to tell me that GOD TOLD YOU that you could divorce!  You not only justify and defend, but you tell ME that I am rigid, old-fashioned, unforgiving, etc, when it is our DUTY as partners in marriage to aid our spouses (our ONE FLESH partner) to Salvation, NOT to HELL...

.....So many of you moan about abortion, rightly... and I am in agreement! It is EVIL.

...but no fault divorce is also! And it destroys what GOD has instituted! JUST AS MUCH AS ABORTION DESTROYS!! And it devastates the children, regardless of their ages!

It was made law--August, 1973-- in the SAME YEAR THAT ABORTION --Jan 1973--became law... IT IS STRAIGHT OUT OF COMMUNIST RUSSIA!! ("POST CARD DIVORCE").

It is unconstitutional, and gives the Respondent NO DUE PROCESS, yet you applaud it, and worship it, and spread its evil. So today, we are fighting to save marriage as ONE MAN/ONE WOMAN. And you wonder why???

May God have Mercy on you, who defend no fault, forced, unilateral divorce. May He have MERCY on those of you who promote and encourage it, especially  those of you who are CLERGY and SPIRITUAL DIRECTORS!

Mary, Mother of Jesus, in Cana, you encouraged your Son to save a newly married couple from embarrassment, and He began His Public Ministry at the Wedding of Cana... PRAY FOR US!

By the way... substitute either sex below...for many women are also RESPONDENTS, and have MUCH THE SAME THING HAPPEN TO THEM. However, MEN are most often the Respondent, and often the worst hurt. They get to be kicked out of their homes, after being lied to about another man, and then get to watch that other man (who supposedly didn't exist) move into their home, and their bed with their wife... his children raised by another man...

And then, to add insult to injury, get to watch as their US Church rewards the adulterers by granting them a verdict of NULL for the first marriage, so that they can go on as though NOTHING HAPPENED....

WOE TO YOU HYPOCRITES, Jesus said... WHITED SEPULCHERS, Jesus called them...

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Matt C. Abbott column

'No-fault' divorce: moms vs. dads

Matt C. Abbott

Matt C. Abbott
June 17, 2010

Veteran Catholic journalist Phil Lawler of CatholicCulture.org recently posted a commentary about Stephen Baskerville's book Taken Into Custody. Phil writes (excerpted; click here to see the entire commentary):

Taken Into Custody ... is a revealing, frightening book about (as the subtitle puts it) 'the war against fatherhood, marriage, and the family.' The author explains how, in response to the urgings of feminists that women must be protected, the courts have turned against fathers. A married man can be taken from his own home, ordered to stay away from his own children, compelled to pay expenses that he cannot control, slapped with a restraining order — all without any plausible evidence that he has done anything wrong!

Does that seem implausible? It did to me. Yet Baskerville provides the evidence. Once a woman declares her interest in leaving her husband, our legal system provides her with every advantage — provided that she does not relent in her determination to punish the father of her children. A small army of lawyers, social workers, and family-court officials will mobilize to protect her — whether or not there is any evidence of a threat. The courts will relax standards of evidence, making it easier for her to claim that her husband is a danger to their children and perhaps to society. The same coalition will form once again to demand heavy alimony payments — whether or not the estranged husband can afford them. If he drops behind in these payments, the man is vilified as a 'deadbeat dad,' and the legal system turns against him with renewed ferocity. He may be unable to find a job, to rent an apartment, to keep his own wages. He has become an outlaw. And again, this can all happen without any substantial evidence of wrongdoing.

Sometimes a family breaks down because a man betrays or abuses his wife. When that happens, the law should protect the woman and the children, and punish the offender. But the law should not presume the man's guilt; the courts should not operate on the assumption that a father is a danger to his children.

Above all, the legal system should work to preserve — not sunder — the marital bond. With the acceptance of 'no-fault' divorce, our legal system has done just the opposite. Baskerville demonstrates convincingly that our courts are biased not only against fathers and husbands, but also against intact marriages....

I thought I'd ask the fiercely-compassionate-but-don't-you-dare-mess-with-her pro-life Catholic attorney — and single mom of two — Nora Doherty, who resides here in Chicago (and who's a friend of mine), for her comments on Phil's article.

Said Nora in an e-mail:

"Society took a turn for the worse with the implementation of so-called 'no fault' divorce. But how can anybody say with a straight face that neither the husband nor the wife is at fault when a family splits up? You can always fault them for picking the wrong mate, leaving God out of their marriage, neglecting the relationship, and for taking the marriage contract too lightly. Lack of effort, prioritizing career over family, addictions to porn, and infidelity necessarily wear on a marriage until it breaks.

Read the rest of this email response on Matt's column.

And don't bother to send scathing responses to me.........I am watching it happen again, and I am in no mood to hear more rationalization/justification from the Pit.